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Thursday, February 25, 2010

That kind of Farang

I recently met a man. No, not that man. A man I didn't like, and that is a rare thing. For those of you that know me will know that generally speaking I am a fancier of men in all shapes and sizes and for various purposes: the friend, the lover, the casual acquaintance. But this man was a flashback, a remembrance of annoyances past from my days in the Land of Smile.

He was a Farang in the most pejorative sense of the word. I met him at a party, and these days I go to so few it is amazing that I should meet anyone that would rankle me to such a degree.

My ex, Tets, who is Asian, was with me at the party. He and I had met and lived for many years in Thailand and this MAN had been to Thailand. He immediately slipped into what I call dumb Farang speak with Tets. "I go Pattaya. I chop Thai." He spit out a few other words in Thai and my discomfort grew and I had to get as far away from him as the house would allow.

I didn't ask who he was;I didn't want to know his name. I didn't tell his girlfriend what kind of visit to Thailand her boyfriend had likely had. I wanted him to disappear and all the other men like him to follow suit.

When I left Thailand, I was more than happy to leave the sputtered mumblings of washed up white men to Thai people behind. I hated the colonial attitude many people wore smugly on their sweating faces. I hated even more, the way my partner was treated as a performing monkey and how he played the part of the white man's dimmer Asian companion. I said goodbye to all that and now here it was again standing in my cousins' kitchen in out-of-the-way Nova Scotia.

Two days ago, via FB, i saw that this MAN was no longer part of my family circle. He and his girlfriend, my distant family member, had broken up. I could not have been happier. I hope I never see him again but if I do, I'll have a few words to share.


  1. Assholes.... they're everywhere....

  2. "I chop Thai"?? Ha!! What a cock. I hate those sort of arrogant guys who think they're gods because they can PAY for attractive ladies to stroke their ego. Dumb dumb dumb.

    I've been lucky enough to visit Thailand 7 times and although I miss it dearly, I do not miss see those sort of farang. Sigh.